Breakups can be one of the most significant mental health events young men experience. New Australian research with men aged 18–30 shows the emotional impact can be intense, disorienting and can place young men at real risk.
The pressure to “move on”
Many men feel pressure to quickly get over a breakup. This research suggests that well‑intended advice can sometimes make things harder, not easier.
What recovery really looks like
Healing after a breakup takes time. Real recovery involves space to process what happened and gradually rebuild. This includes:
- Refocussing on daily routines and study habits
- Reconnecting with interests, sports or social activities
- Slowly regaining emotional stability and allowing your motivation to gradually return
Why the right support matters
Support makes a difference, but only when it’s the right kind. The right support can help young men to better understand themselves at their lowest point. Some examples of helpful support include:
- Taking someone seriously.
- Hearing them out without judgment
- Avoid giving pressure, quick fixes, or “just get over it” advice.
You don’t need to rush your way out of a breakup. Real recovery takes time, so give yourself the space to go through it properly.
Some useful resources
- Men’s Wellbeing Podcast –Men’s Wellbeing Conversations — Episode 1: Breaking Up.
- Men’s Health and Wellbeing at La Trobe: Men’s wellbeing counselling is available In-person at the Melbourne campus and via Zoom for all campuses. Book an appointment to speak to a trained staff
- La Trobe University Crisis Line (after hours):📞 1300 146 307📱 Text 0488 884 100. Available 5pm–9am on weekdays, and 24 hours on weekends and public holidays.