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It\u2019s best to be as specific as possible, or you might fall into the trap of giving a little bit more, over and over, until you\u2019ve given far too much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Know your values.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every person\u2019s limits are different, and they\u2019re often determined by their personal values. For example, if you value family above all else, this might lead to stricter limits on how late you will stay at work or study, away from family.&nbsp; Know what\u2019s most important to you, and protect it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Listen to your emotions.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you notice feelings of discomfort or resentment, don\u2019t bury them. Try to understand what your feelings are telling you. Resentment, for example, can often be traced to feelings of being taken advantage of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Have self-respect.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you always give in to others, ask if you are showing as much respect to yourself as you show to others. Boundaries that are too open might be due to misguided attempts to be liked by elevating other people\u2019s needs above one\u2019s own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Have respect for others.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be sure that your actions are not self-serving, at the expense of others. Interactions should not be about winning, or taking as much as possible. Instead, consider what\u2019s fair to everyone, given the setting and relationship. You might \u2018win\u2019, but at the cost of a relationship\u2019s long-term health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Be assertive.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you know it\u2019s time to set a boundary, don\u2019t be shy. Say \u2018no\u2019 respectfully, but without ambiguity. If you can make a compromise while respecting your own boundaries, try it. 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