The Peers Outsmarting Homophobia (POSH) booklet

For same sex attracted young people, workers, families and friends.

 
 
Peers Out Smarting Homophobia (POSH) booklet. Belief 4. Same sex attracted people live lonely lives.
The POSH booklet can be downloaded here

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You have as much chance as a straight person to find the love of your life and form a long term relationship. Unhappiness and loneliness can happen for many reasons - life circumstances, individual paths followed, or unfortunate events. Same sex attracted or not, we are all exposed to these possibilities. The mistaken idea that gays and lesbians do not have children is partly behind the belief that they are lonely as is the lack of information about same sex long term relationships. Besides the fact that having children is not a safeguard from loneliness, more than ever, lesbians and gay men are having children in their same sex relationships.

This can happen through many means – heterosexual sex, donor insemination and fostering. While the rules about these things are different in each state and territory, the laws are changing.  As of 2006, lesbian and gay couples can foster a child but not adopt. The Victorian Law Reform Commission has recommended that lesbian and gay couples be allowed to adopt, access assisted reproductive technologies and be registered as parents of their children.

Family is really about people around you who love and support you. Friendship groups and the gay community are regarded as family by many people, hence the slogan ‘We are family’.  As a same sex attracted person you can lead a happy fulfilled life, have kids, create family and have a committed relationship just like everyone else.

How young people outsmarted this belief.
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I plan to get married, whether it is allowed by law or not, I will still have a ceremony. I plan to have children, a family, and a wonderful life with my husband until the day we both die. Ryan 18 years
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I'm so so proud of being gay and I do want to get married to a woman and raise to beautiful children with the help of my best friend Sam and his sperm and the constant support of my gay and straight friends and also my family. Donna 18 years
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Living in a rural area has taught me a bit about people and life. The experience has made me stronger. I plan on living out the normal Australian life. I will get married, I will be a supportive partner, I will make my partner happy, I will be there for him through thick and thin, I will get a car, I will get a house and most importantly I WILL BE HAPPY!! no one will take that from me, that includes politicians who are more worried about the political game 6 December, 2007>
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I was convinced by the time I was 16 that I was a lesbian and that that meant I would always be alone. I thought that if I became a career woman I could just tell people I hadn't had time to meet the right man and that’s why I was still single. I didn't think I would ever be able to come out. I lived like this for a couple of years…I saw that I was on a journey, and that there were many possible paths I could take, but I learned the path that would lead to happiness for me was not pretending to be some straight career woman with no time to meet a husband, but actually being honest about who I was and then just hoping for the best. I am still at law school, but now instead of being a successful single career woman lawyer I am going to be a successful, partnered career woman lawyer, and with any luck I might just change the world! Abbey 20 years

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Well I’ve always considered it to be a blessing to be gay. I’m part of a community that is loving and caring.
Terrance 15 years

  


 

 

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24 May, 2007